May 04 2009
Soul Mate
What is a soul-mate?
Richard Bach describes somewhere “A soul-mate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be complete and honest. Wedding Crashers the movie describes it as the Soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another.
It seems that when we are at the height of joy and respect with another person we see LOVE like never before. We feel it like we will never feel again. How do we know when we have met our soul-mate? Why will our marriage be the one to succeed over someone else’s? We have all been in temporary relationships and moved on. But what if we let “the one” get away? What if we never get to meet our soul-mate? Is our life sub-par? Do we even know what we’re missing? What is life without love… TRUE LOVE?
I say you don’t know what you’re missing until TRUE LOVE smacks into you! Ignorance is BLISS (more or less). Every relationship we form gets better each time. We are finding out who we are everyday, learning about our own likes and dislikes and we are choosing more wisely. Its called Emotional Intelligence and it is not a trait we are born with, it is learned through experiences and relationships. We all change so drastically from our 20’s to our 30’s how can we know what we want? Do we change from our 30’s to our 40’s in the same dramatic fashion? I guess that all depends upon what happens in our lives. Unfortunately we learn to appreciate the little things a little too late, we value our family and friends a bit differently as we age, we say often “if I knew then what I know now”. If only that were a wish that could be given; many people would find that person of their dreams early on in life, and not own so many pairs of SHOES! So is Love and Life…. but LIFE is far too short to live with regret.
WOW can you imagine that world?
It took me three husbands to find my soul mate. I was married to the first one, for around 3-years, the second one 27-years (he died of cancer) and the third one and I will celebrate our second anniversary in September of this year. Sometimes you just have to do it the wrong way to find the right one in the end. Reflecting at 52-years-old is not an option, its a joy!
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I’ve never believed in ’soul mates’. That’s always seemed like an excuse to me to get out of a relationship; “well, they weren’t my soul mate.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that’s always the case. And there are certainly people that seem to get along in a way that seems to be beyond the norm.
Relationships, no matter who they are with, take a lot of work. If soul mates really do exist I would say that a lot of people lose them because they expect a relationship that seems to easy initially to require less effort.
It’s true that people don’t always know what they want in their 20s, and that people do a lot of changing in their younger years; however a really solid couple will be able to weather those changes together. Divorce being as common as it is is a very new thing, just 50 years ago nearly all marriages survived and people back then got married a lot younger.